adultsdating tips

Before the date ?

Doing the asking. Don't just ask someone out simply for the sake of it. Instead, find someone that really sparks your interest. Email back and forth a couple of times or have a phone conversation before you make your move. When you're ready, suggest by email or phone that you hook up. A simple "Hey, why don't we get together for a cup of coffee?" is a good start. If the object of your affection is interested (and only if interested), ask when they're available and suggest a time and place. Choose something that's convenient for both of you.
Picking a spot to meet. Ideally, your first date should be at an open place that has a lot of people milling about, like a coffee shop, happy hour bar or casual lunch joint. A little creativity is a good idea, but remember that your goal is not to impress your date with the lavish setting but rather to select a spot that's casual and nice where there'll be ample opportunity to chit-chat quietly and get to know each other. Your best bet is someplace that you've already been to and like. If you don't have a spot in mind, ask a friend, coworker or even your date to recommend a favorite.
Tell a friend what's going on. Sharing the haps with friends will help you lighten up and appease any safety worries you might have. Also, if your date bombs, you'll have someone to laugh about it with, and if your date is the bomb, you'll have someone to share your glee.
Keep your expectations in check. You're going on a first date, not walking down the aisle, so expect to meet a new friend, not your life mate. Keeping your expectations in line takes the pressure off and is one of the keys to a fantastic first date. If you end up becoming more than just friends, wonderful; but if not, you'll at least be relaxed enough to have a nice time.
On the Date Be on time or early if that's what it takes to get you there on time.
Break the ice. Find something nice to say about your date...anything. Some kind of compliment on what your date is wearing is always a good bet and an easy icebreaker.
Make your date feel like a star. This means paying more attention to your date than to yourself by listening, asking loads of questions and calling your date by name. If you find yourself talking for more than 5 minutes straight, you need to stop, ask your date a question and try to get some back and forth going. If you're shy, you're in luck -- just come up with a few good open-ended questions.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Be respectful of your date. Be polite with thank you's. Pay attention when your date is talking. Give your date space, literally. Monitor your humor. (While humor can be one of the most wonderful things on a date, you have to remember that what's funny to you, may not be funny to your date. So, test the waters before letting it rip. If you both find the same things amusing, laugh up a storm; but if you discover that your humor is different, save your breath while you save your integrity.)
Keep the ball rolling. If it's going well, ask for another date, lead in that direction, or leave it open for the asking later. Make it clear how you feel (everyone needs encouragement!). If you're into playing hard to get, do it with a wink so that your date will eventually go for it instead of just going away.
Be cool. Don't invite any friends to play James Bond on you during your date or provide an easy out if necessary. (Yes, daters do this.) If you're having a bad time on the date, act like a grown-up for an hour, grin and bare it, thank your date politely and leave. On the flip side, if you're having a blast, don't interrupt the flow with shouts of jubilation; rather, stay cool, tranquilly let your date know that you would like to go out again and celebrate with a friend later.
After the Date
Call your confidante with the play-by-play...and laugh, cry or jump for joy.
Make a follow-up call or send an email to your date soon -- the next day or that night is fine, especially if you had a fantastic time and can't resist. Forget any rules about waiting and set up or suggest a second date. Even if you don't meet again for another week, setting it up asap will keep the ball rolling. And if you're the one doing the asking and your date declines, then you'll know where you stand and can move on to better things. Next!
Don't think too much. If you find yourself smitten but your date isn't calling or responding when the ball is in their court, give it a few days and then give a ring and tell them you'd like to get together again. If their response is a dud, let it go and move on. If your date comes around later, realizing how simply irresistible you are, let him or her make the effort to see you again.


Saying thanks but no thanks.If you're not into the other person, send an email saying that you had a nice time on the date but that you don't think it's a match. Just remember to be sensitive and polite when you do so.
Don't lead anyone on. It may feel good to your ego to have someone calling and emailing you, and it may be easier to not have to say "no," but you're not the center of the world, and it's not fair to string someone along. Other people have egos, too.
Rejoice and give yourself a pat on the back. Whether you met the love of your life or a new friend, you've just had a real dating experience! You took action. You weren't a doormat. You shook up your routine. You widened your circle of friends. You learned something about yourself and another human being. You had an hour of fun during the date and several hours of amusement planning for it and thinking about the possibilities. You made a move towards finding someone great. And now, you're ready for the next step...whether that be the second date or contacting someone else for another first date.

Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it.If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

Vagina Massage
When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman's clitoris or pushed inside. See the sexual lubricants product page for information on useful lubricants. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman's erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a "tube of lube" sitting nearby. Under no circumstance should you put pressure or blame on your partner for this if it happens; work with her to get around it. It's written all over this and every other sexual information site, but in case you have forgotten, communication is key.
Vaginal Massage
Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes "through" the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. Lie down side by side, and put your hand over hers while she shows you what she likes. You can also try having her hand over top of yours guiding.
External
Another technique which women are very receptive of is to have your partner lie on her back, spread her vaginal lips wide apart with your outer fingers, and use your middle finger to rapidly slide up and down her vagina rapidly and lightly grazing her clitoris. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Don't forget to use your mouth while you are fingering, keep kissing her, her neck, and all her other erogenous zones.
Internal
An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We're talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.
Another, more intense motion is to position your hand so that you have one or two fingers inside her with your palm facing her body. Now bend your fingers inward and move them in rapid but short movements focusing on her G Spot. This technique can quickly bring your woman to orgasm, especially when combined with cunnilingus. .
women and "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction?
If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself.
There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"! So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not necessarily that they are more physically attractive or smarter or more successful than the "nice guys". In fact, they can have fewer of these qualities, yet be harder to resist.
So what is it? Let's begin by defining these guys. This term is generally applied to males who treat women poorly. Do these behaviors ring a bell?
· calling at 8:30 on a Saturday night to ask if you want to get together
· not showing up for a date- followed by no phone call or apology
· never having any money when you are out
· forgetting or ignoring your birthday and other important dates
· flirting openly with other women when you are together
· hitting on your good friend(s)
· making booty calls at 1am, after they've had a night out with others
· is doing time for a serious felony
Instead of asking "what is it about these guys"; let's instead examine what it is about the women who can't resist them. The following are actual statements from women who have a history of attraction to these guys. See if any of these sound familiar.
· "It's never BORING with him. He's unpredictable and exciting."
· "He's strong, aggressive and self-assured; I feel safe with him."
· "It's not his fault; he's trying to get his life together."
· "I haven't met anyone else that makes me feel the way he does."
· "He's so charming and passionate."
· "He tells me how much he likes me, so he must really feel something for me."
· "He needs me."
· "He doesn't come across as needy and desperate."
· "I can't believe I've attracted someone like him."
Now, on the face of these, they seem pretty benign. We all seek at least some of these traits in the men we choose. So, where's the problem?
Essentially it's in his inability to meet the woman's fundamental needs. She is the one doing all (or most) of the giving. The question then lies in; "what's in it for her?"
The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues:
· level of self-esteem
· capacity for intimacy
· roles that she has been in throughout her life
If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both verbally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.
If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.
If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to the true availability of the other person. She wants him to be a full and active participant in the relationship. She can allow herself to be open, vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy offers.
If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically available.
If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this healthy interaction.
If a woman has been too long in the role of rescuer, caregiver or the one who sacrifices for the good of others, this will probably be the role she will seek out in her relationships.
Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these issues. So the task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy", who stirs your senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real relationship.
Once you know what is most important to you and believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step towards finding the right partner for you.

Intimacy and Sex
Timing
DonÂ't lead with your body, no matter how taken you seem to be with a man. If heÂ's really interested in you, and not just in sex, heÂ'll wait until you think the time is right and respect that, whatever that timing is, and whether it is based on your religious beliefs, your personal preferences, or both. If he is aggressive in this area, he is not for you. Not just because he wants sex, but because he isnÂ't showing respect for what you think. HeÂ's inconsiderate and only thinking of himself. You want someone who thinks of you first.
Having a physical relationship before you get to know someone may also cloud your judgment. You might find that the sex may be exciting and great, particularly if it has been a while. But if the match isnÂ't as good as you thought later, if you have already been intimate, you might wish later that you hadnÂ't been. If youÂ've been there already, you know what I mean. It can also easily make sex the focus, instead of getting to know each other better first. Not that it canÂ't work the other way around, but you put the odds of better judgment in your favor with a more conservative course of action and a clearer head.
Sexual Protection
The decision if, or when, to have sex rests with you, whether it is early on, or reserved until after marriage. Much has been written about the importance of close companions, particularly newer ones, having protected sex. Many sources of information are available about sexually transmitted diseases through your physician and Internet medical locations. It is highly sensible to learn about a man's dating and sex history, and his truthfulness, before having any unprotected sex. Having a relationship break up is one form of hurt, suffering the consequences of a disease from unprotected sex is a far greater one. Be judicious.
Discussing Sex
Somewhere along the way, having a frank discussion about sex is necessary. It is an important part of a relationship.
I have read that more than a few mature women have become disinterested in sex. While there could be medical explanations for this sometimes, which may be worthwhile investigating and seeking medical advice for, my guess is that the reason may lie more often in a manÂ's approach, lack of general sensitivity, failure to meet a womanÂ's sexual needs and fantasies or to stimulate her in ways she finds satisfying emotionally and physically.
There is also a need to ascertain whether a man's sexual practices are acceptable to you. If you have been frustrated and unfulfilled in this area, do not to give up hope on a satisfying sexual relationship. Time, openness, adjustment, communication and caring for one another are all necessary ingredients. If your lover is loving and kind and pays attention to your sexual needs, as you do to his, things can be beautiful and exciting again. Keep this hope alive, as well as that of finding the special, wonderful and caring man to share love, romance, sex and your daily time with.
Intimacy, Romance and Feeling Loved
Intimacy can be just as important for men as it is for women. Some of them just don't know it. Some have never gotten past the basics. And some can't be taught, or won't want to change. But many can be and will be open to it with a little prompting. It is important for women to know that many men want the same kind of intimacy that they do.
Do you like to be hugged and kissed, have your arms and legs stroked lovingly and gently, be kissed on the neck, be hugged from behind and told how much you are loved? Do you like to just be kissed and hugged out of the blue for no reason and told "I love you"? Well, a lot of men like to have those things happen to them too. It makes them feel valued and loved, the same way you feel when it happens to you.
Do not hesitate to do these things to a man. It lets him know how much you love him. It shouldn't just be a one way street. Many women want, or dream of, having a man share love with them, but they won't share it themselves. Sometimes it might be because of their reserved nature, because they think it is not "lady like" or because they have always been the one having the attention paid to them because of their attractiveness. Intimacy and romance should be a two way street.
Be a toucher and a hugger. Put your arm around your man's shoulders and give him a squeeze. It lets him know and feel how special he is.
If you love someone, let him know it in every way you can. You be the initiator, out of bed and in it. It is not just "the man's job" to initiate sex and to orchestrate the sexual agenda. Be an active participant. Your initiatives let him know that you love him and want to show him that love by your overt actions. It can help a man feel that he is really loved and bond him ever closer to you. If a man always has to be the initiator, and always has to be the one making the moves in bed, it can sometimes make him feel that his lover is too passive, and doesn't love him enough to want to enthusiastically express her love to him. A woman and a man coming at each other in enthusiastic love can create a new excitement all its own, that can help re-fire what you may have thought was lost. So do not hesitate to be more aggressive. It can be a real turn on for a man. Your good communication with one another can help both of you find the right level. If you feel that your date is deficient in these areas, have a serious, but pleasant talk about it with him. Together you will find the sexual balance that will make your love grow all the more.
Some men find these kinds of romantic expressions very difficult, and sometimes uncomfortable, but with some encouragement and telling him how very important it is to you for him to show you these things, hopefully he will respond in a positive way. You lead the way and set the example. It will greatly increase the love connection you feel for one another. Keep romance alive as it should be, and will go a long way toward creating and maintaining a lasting and love filled relationship. Be each other's lovers.
Do your part to stimulate romance. Let your special man know that this is important to you, if it is. Wear some things you know he really likes. Look good and smell fragrant. Have surprise candlelight dinners or surprise your guy by taking him to a romantic restaurant or someplace else where you can be together in a close and special way.
Be provocative once in a while. Wear something sexy and frilly that you know your man will like, so it looks like you walked out of a dream. Feel comfortable about this. Just look good and be radiant. You will stir his heart, his passion and his love for you.
Have some drinks or other beverages and little snacks on the table in the living room, den or deck when he comes home. Sit and talk a while and relax.(Studies have shown that many disagreements arise within a short time after someone who has been out for a while arrives home. Allow for relaxation, deceleration and reconnecting time.)
Spending private time together every day is very important. Make time for yourselves. Do not let daily activities leave you with only crumbs and leftovers for each other. If you have children, maybe this is better done later in the evening. Hopefully, your man will start responding in kind and you'll have two builders for the "house of love and romance", not just one. Some of this may have sounded fine to you or some of it may have sounded like it didn't fit very well with you or your partner. What I've written is meant to be suggestive only. Just keep the same love and romance objective. Then fine tune it and do what seems most natural and what works best for both of you to make your love what you want it to be, and what it should be.
Fear of Intimacy
I am not speaking of sex here necessarily, but of a deep and loving closeness of kissing, holding and hugging the one you love, touching, and speaking to one another in the most private and personal way. For some women it comes very naturally to be intimate in these ways, and to desire a partner who also is. But that is surely not everybody. Some women find it difficult to encourage intimacy with a man, and to welcome it themselves. It could be the result of a past hurt, the risk of feeling foolish, particularly if it all doesn't work out, or simply that a woman has never been intimate with a man before. Whatever the reason, I encourage you to go forward in intimacy when you have feelings for someone. There is always the risk of being hurt, but it is a heck of a way to go through life never having shared the sweetness of intimacy with a man you love. Don't force it. Just relax and let it come slowly and naturally. If you have the right man, he will be gentle,kind and understanding. He probably needs intimacy as much as you do. Together you will discover your way to a new and unique level of happiness that both of you can share together always.
Perhaps you are in thirties, forties, fifties, sixties or beyond and have never been intimate with a man before. There is no shame in that. Maybe you didn't meet a person you felt that way about before. Or maybe it has been too uncomfortable for you to let your feelings go in that direction. But when you feel as if you have found the right man, follow your heart and share yourself with each other. That is the greatest love. The giving of yourself to one another. You will find a completeness in yourself, and in life, that you didn't know was missing. Once you find it you will never want to let go of it in your life again. Even if the relationship doesn't work out in the end, you will have freed yourself, and more fully completed yourself, for any further relationship you might have. Let the spiritual beauty you have inside you pass over to the man you love. You will both be all the better and happier for it. It will be ok. Just listen to your heart.
Complete Sex
Sex should have a physical, emotional and spiritual dimension. The physical part that produces desire and provides a relief to mind and body is what most people can easily relate to. When it is shared between two people who have love and/or caring for one another, it also produces a special emotional closeness.
The spiritual part is more elusive, and is often absent. This takes place when the partners are not only joining their bodies, but joining their minds and hearts and souls in giving themselves fully to one another during those special moments. At those times, try to think of the deep love and closeness you feel for him.
Talk with him about it. Work on making those moments everything they can be at the deepest level. The physical part is wonderful in and of itself, but that can be heightened to the greatest degree when both the woman and the man bring their entire being to the moment. Try to find someone who understands this. There is a world of difference between "having sex" and having a deep and meaningful sexual relationship. Experience the deepest kind of love you can have at the deepest level. Give yourselves completely and fully to one another. .



Online Relationships
At Top Dating Tips, we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity of providing you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.
The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. LoveBrowser.com is an excellent example of a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.
Of course, they cannot take responsibility for your actions using their services, as you are all adults, but they can offer some advice based on our own experiences.
Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?

First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. To do this here are some tips you may find helpful:-
· Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your My Own Words section and your emails and messages. This is the first important rule.
· Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
· Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
· Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
· Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
· Take your time, you can edit your profile at LoveBrowser at any time. Change it occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
· Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
· Be polite with messaging, and don't make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
· Please don't feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
· Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
· Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
· Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
· Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
· Always reply quite quickly to any messages.
· Don't talk about money or possessions at this time. Most people like or love someone for who they are, not what they have. We assume you do not want to find someone who simply wants you for what you can provide.
· Do not apply any form of pressure in an email, whether it be for a reply or a meeting. Do not be critical of their profile or photo. This will create a negative response.
Okay, so once you have mailed other members and are receiving their emails, then you may wish to consider the following:-
Ensure Your Privacy is Protected
The information you supply when you register at dating sites like LoveBrowser.com is completely confidential. Your registration details are kept secret from all members and under no circumstances are made available to any third party. No member of staff should ever ask you for your password. They must NOT use your contact or email details for marketing purposes. Any member who matches you in their searches can only see what you have told them in terms of your personal profile, nothing more. Therefore, remember not to include you actual email address or telephone number in the text of your profile or in emails unless you are sure that you would like to take your friendship further. Dating sites generally cannot access your emails and do not have any control on what information you supply to another member. If someone you are in contact with is not giving much away then perhaps you should err on the side of caution.
Listen to Your Intuition
Often overlooked I feel. This is the thing we all use on a daily basis and we all trust our intuition often. It's easy to get carried away when someone appears to be interested. Remember the rule, if you suspect something, you are probably correct. Trust your judgment. Listen to what you are being told. Ask many questions. Don't give too many details away if the other person tells you very little. If someone is being honest, they will be happy to tell you about themselves and their lives.
A key point is to make sure that you are enjoying your online dating. Never ever let someone pressure you. If you don't want to explain something or provide certain details then do not. A real friend will behave in a patient and relaxed way. After receiving an email, sit back and think about what you are being told, take your time and try and sense the person behind the email. And read their profile thoroughly.
When the Time Comes
At some point you may wish to meet in person the friend you have made. Remember the rule, you only have to meet someone if you really want to. If you feel uncomfortable about meeting, then don't agree to meet. Even if you have agreed, you can change your mind whenever you like. Perhaps you need to chat for longer, perhaps it would be better to use the phone first. Do not give out your home number, address, or personal details unless you are sure about the person you wish to meet.
If you do decide it's time to take your friendship a step further, then here are some things to think about. It may save you a great deal of time and effort: -

Ask yourself these questions:
Do you feel you know the person well?
Have they answered all your question?
Are they patient, good humored and fun?
Do you trust them?
Have they applied any pressure on you?
Do you know what they do for a living, and the area they live in?
Do you know about their background and family?
Have you seen their photo and have you more than one photo of them in different situations?
Have you spoken on the phone?
Are you sure they have described themselves truthfully?
If you can answer YES to these happily then maybe it is time to meet. Only you can decide that. Think about these general dating rules, and act upon them if you think they are a good idea :-
· Tell a person close to you about the meeting. Tell them where you are going, when you are meeting them, where the meeting will take place, what time you will be returning. Give a person close to you as much information as you can. If you have a mobile phone or are close to a pay phone then perhaps call to say you are fine and that everything is great.
· Agree to meet in a public place first. Perhaps a restaurant or bar or somewhere where there are plenty of other people. Agree to meet somewhere that you know, in familiar surroundings where you can relax and enjoy the meeting. You could arrange to have other friends in the same place but at a distance, so you feel more relaxed.
· Do not agree to be collected from work or home, and make your own way there and home on the first occasion. Perhaps get a friend to take you there and collect you afterwards.
· Restrict the time of the first meeting. Perhaps a lunch hour or a short time after work. This is useful if you decide that the situation is not favorable and you need to leave.
· If at any point you wish to leave then do so. Do not feel obliged to stay and find yourself feeling awkward. If you do not feel relaxed then you will not enjoy the date. You owe it to yourself to feel happy and relaxed, and it is possible that it may take a few meetings with different people before you find that special person.
Long Distance Relationships
Online Dating through sites like LoveBrowser means that you can easily meet people from all over the world. This is a fantastic way of dating and perhaps very soon you may find yourself emotionally involved with someone who lives a long way away. Perhaps that may be part of the attraction even. However you should try and be practical. If the person lives overseas then ask yourself the question as to are you serious that you will travel a long way to see that person? If you do travel and find yourself more than happy, then how easy will it be to keep up the relationship? If you are content with this situation, and you decide to meet then there are some other things you may wish to consider:
· ALWAYS stay in a hotel you have arranged yourself, and never stay at their accommodation, however generous. This will allow you both to feel less pressure, to relax into the situation and find some common ground. You may have both made promises in mail or on the phone that may be harder to keep once a meeting has occurred. If possible, arrange the hotel in a secure area of the city you are visiting, and arrange the hotel yourself. It's always easier to escape a date that's not going well, when not staying with them.
· Provide the details of your hotel and travel arrangements to a best friend at home, and make an arrangement to contact them when you arrive, after you have met your new friend and when you are returning. Take a mobile phone if possible and keep in contact.
· Always be cautious if in any doubt, and never be uncomfortable about changing your mind and returning home at any time should the situation cause you any concern.
The Bottom Line
The bottom line? Be yourself and enjoy your dating. We know that online dating can be great fun, safe and immensely enjoyable. We have found that as long as the basic precautions are followed, then it is possible to travel locally, or indeed, anywhere in the world to meet a special partner or make new friends. The beauty of dating online is that the whole world is open to allow you to meet fantastic new people. Just use a little intuition and common sense. We hope you don't mind us offering some basic tips and wish you every success..


Dating Advice #1 – Stay Positive and Pace Yourself!
When e-mailing and IM-ing (Instant Messaging) with others, be positive, upbeat and honest. Just like when you're meeting people for the first time in "real life," it's never a good idea to bombard someone with the unadulterated story of your life complete with every road bump and detour. Keep the honesty, but don't overwhelm your online friend with too much information too soon. Pace yourself!
Dating Advice #2 – Photos are Powerful!
Pictures say a thousand words. Include one! Profiles that include photos get many more responses than text-only ones!
Dating Advice #3 – Demonstrate Why You're Unique
Round out your profile with interesting information that highlights your unique personality, background and interests. Everyone enjoys walks on the beach and snuggling up by the fireplace…. so go beyond the ordinary and offer up detail on authors you're inspired by, places you've visited or dreamed about seeing, etc. Go beyond the ordinary and you'll reap the rewards!
Dating Advice #4 – Meet People at Your Own Pace
Don't feel pressured to meet face to face before you're ready. Men usually do better when they let women control the pace of the online relationship, since a woman may need a little more time to feel safe. Men would do well to let women know they are interested in meeting face-to-face, but then to step back and let the woman say when.
Dating Advice #5 – Close the Deal!
After you meet someone that you like, cinch a second meeting after the date, by looking directly into his or her eyes and saying, "I had a really great time with you, it was a lot of fun."
Dating Advice #6 – Safety First!
Be sure to assume an anonymous handle, i.e., member ID or user name, so that your privacy is assured. Never sign up with an online personals company that doesn't provide anonymous email services!
Other safety tips include :
· Use an e-mail address or cell phone number as an initial means of contact. Do not give out your home phone number.
· If you're planning on meeting someone, tell at least two people where you're going, the person's name, their general description, and your expected time home.
· Always meet someone in a neutral location. Never have them come to your home or place of work to pick you up.
· Always meet someone in a public place, such as a restaurant, or a movie theatre.
· Always be aware of the personal information you're revealing to a date.
· Use common sense. If you get a bad "vibe" maybe it's time to end the date.
Bottom Line: Forget about acting cool, and think about acting real. The dates (and maybe even true love) will follow.




























Blind Date
The phone rings at 3:00 Monday afternoon and it is your best girlfriend Jenny, inviting you to dinner next weekend. What a nice thought, until she tells you there is “this guy she just knows you'll like”.
Do these “arranged situations” ever work out; these blind dates that well meaning friends and families attempt to arrange for all of us at some point in our lives? What do we have to lose anyway? Well, let's just look at what happened when Jenny tried to do this favor for her friend Lisa!
It had been a long Monday for Lisa, and she was ready for a friendly voice on the telephone. When she heard from Jenny, it was the bright spot in her day. Little did Lisa know what an impact this call would have on her life for the next few weeks. Jenny invited her to a restaurant they had both been anxious to try out; a new little Italian place with red checked tablecloths, a real live violinist, and a tempting selection of wonderful foods and wines. This was just what she was needed to plan for to help her get through her week!
But wait, there's a catch, and he has a name. Jenny knows this fellow named Bob who just moved to town and is a really nice guy. She thought it would be “fun” to do a double date Saturday night with Bob and his friend from work. It sounded harmless since they've both wanted to try out the new place, so Lisa accepted Jenny's invitation and they both made plans to meet at Berelli's Saturday night.
So far, these girls are doing the right thing by meeting these guys at the restaurant and not being picked up. They don't know them very well and if for some reason, one (or both) need to duck out, neither will be stuck without wheels.
The weekend rolled around soon enough and Jenny and Lisa had taken a little trip the mall to shop for a couple of cute dresses and matching shoes. They helped each other with their hair that Saturday afternoon, and almost felt like young schoolgirls going out on their first date. In a way it was, for Lisa, since it was her first blind date. She had never done anything like this before, and although she was looking forward to being with her friend, she was a little hesitant about meeting this guy Bob. Anyway, it was just a dinner and that would be it.
They jumped into the car and drove over to Berelli's, making sure they were “fashionably” late (but just 10 minutes), not to appear over anxious to their gentleman waiting. Bob and William had already gotten a nice table and ordered a bottle of wine, so the scene was set for a lovely evening. What a cute place this new little restaurant was! It looked like a page right out of Italy, with the tables set so beautifully, music filling the room, and Jenny even noticed a quaint little dance floor near the violinist for those who wished to become a little romantic. This was just what she needed, and Bob looked pretty good too. He had a nice smile, good looking suit, and pulled out her chair for her when she sat down. This man is right out of a storybook! Who ever said blind dates are a mistake anyway?
As the evening progressed, the couples seemed to enjoy each other's company and all four were convinced Berelli's was a dining experience that they would recommend to their other friends. Lisa was so glad that she decided to take Jenny up on her offer. Actually she had never tried blind dating until that night because of all the horror stories told in the past. She had heard tales of all sorts, and although they were true, perhaps they were exaggerated a bit. They planned another date the next weekend and Jenny hoped that her first blind date would be her last. Bob very well just may be the “Mr. Right” she had been waiting for.
Now that is the way a story should always go, with a happy ending; however, girls (and guys) beware of the blind date. Make sure you handle yourself in a manner that doesn't allow yourself to be taken advantage of in any way, especially with wine flowing freely all night long. Many times if you have “let your guard down” you can find yourself in a situation you may not be able to handle. For example, if you are really attracted to someone and let him know it, he can sometimes get the wrong impression. It just is always a good idea not to be too friendly on first dates (and sometimes second and third dates) until you really get to know the person and you are certain he respects your wishes.
When employers hire new people, they many times do reference checks, and sometimes even background checks before they hire. You can do the same type of thing by making sure someone knows this person you plan to go out with and hopefully knows something about his past. The last thing you want is to fall in love with some guy or gal who ends up with the reputation of violence or some other seedy problem. These kinds of situations happen all the time. “But they would never happen to me…” we all believe; but they can, so we much be smart about where we go and with whom we go out with.
Lisa got lucky and met the man of her dreams, but unfortunately, that isn't always the way it works. Thinking back to her story, she originally just planned to have a nice evening and things just happened to work out much better than she expected. Meeting new people is fun; just be sure and use good common sense and keep a safe distance until you know exactly what you are getting into.
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